|One of my graduation pics from U of Alabama.
In August 2012, I moved to Alabama on my own.
We live in a world that tells us we should never give up – that no matter how hard things may seem, we should keep going. This world also tells us that we need to overcome our fears in order to live a happier, more fulfilling life. But what if those things aren’t true? What if it’s okay to give up or to still live in fear? And what if those things do in fact make us better?
I like to think that’s the case.
We give up because we’re scared. Maybe we’re trying to lose weight and nothing is working, so we go back to our old ways because it’s easier that way. But why did we give up? Was it because it wasn’t working or were we scared that it never would? It may be a little of both, but in my life, I’ve noticed that more often than not, I give up because I’m afraid. I’m terrified of seeing the results if I give it one more day. So instead, I give up.
We all have fears. Some people are afraid of heights, small spaces or falling. Others are afraid of snakes, sharks and even pickles. We hear all the time that we have to face those fears in order to be happy. I don’t know about you, but I’m perfectly okay with not coming face to face with a shark. In fact, my life will be perfectly content if I never encounter one.
I believe fear is okay. Maybe even great. I believe that fear pushes us to be better and to do more. However, people let fear consume them instead of drive them. When we look at fear from a different perspective, it can change the way we live our lives.
When I was in college, I realized that fear wasn’t such a bad thing. So I made a decision to be fearless. Before you say, “Wait, fearless means the absence of fear, but you’re saying we should live with fear. What gives?” Let me explain.
To me, fearless is not the absence of fear. To be fearless means to do things despite how much they scare you. I’ve always believed that the more fear you feel, the more amazing the outcome will be. When you live your life being fearless, you’re committing to go out and do something that scares you every day. Whether that means making a phone call, moving to a different state or trying something new, being fearless means doing the things that scare you to death. It’s not always easy, and sometimes, even for me, it causes great discomfort and anxiety. Stepping outside of your comfort zone is terrifying. But the best things in life happen when you step outside your comfort zone.
So here’s my challenge to you: This week, do something that scares you. Talk to your boss about that raise, share your story on a blog, start a new workout program. Whatever it is that scares you, do it anyway.
What have you done today that scared you?